Fighting with Laura

So last night was not so great....me and my friend Heather were going to surprise my friend Laura but showing up at her house and stealing her for a bit.  We planned on driving around talking and smoking cigs, just being girls.  But Laura called and said it was her brothers bday and that she was going to her grandmoms for cake.  I told her the plans and she bascially made fun of me for everything I said.  She mocked that fact that we were going to the track...I guess working out is somewhat dorky now? New news to me.  So me and Heather went the track to run/walk.  But I still thought about how rude she was to me earlier.  I know Laura is going through a lot...she is going through a bad break up and hasn't been herself for quite sometime.  She started a new shift at work that requires her to do a lot more work and be up at 5 each day.  Later I called her and asked if she was going to still come out.  She tells me that she is tired and going home to bed...I then mention the Singles Mingle I got an invite too(along with 8 friends).  I told her to be open about it and just think about going.  She said that she would think about it and then starts getting really mad..."We aren't sixteen anymore, I have responsibilties and I can't be hung over at work"  She then went on to tell me that I don't understand the type of work she has to do, its very tiring.  I told her that I understand that we aren't sixteen but we always aren't thirty either.  At this she gets pissed and tells me she has to go.  So generally I am upset...I have been trying to help her keep busy.  I ask her to go out a lot but only to help her keep her mind off things.  I only really want to help her.  We have been best friends since 8th grade.  But I was really pissed at the way she was talking to me like she was somewhat better than me. I dropped Heather off and I see that my friend Lauren(Laura and Lauren are good friends) called, so I called her and basically let everything out saying...I don't know whats wrong with Laura.  She has been talking to me like I am a piece of sh*t.  I told her what had happened tonight and then she tells me, "Laura is sitting right in front of me."  This is so typical of my friends, instead of Lauren not answering my call or just interrupting me she lets me go on and on.  They love drama and this was right up their alley.  I was like mad at Lauren because I just felt like she let me go on just to make me feel dumb. And Laura lied about going home and going to bed when she had plans with Lauren all along to go over there. Lauren is pregnant...and I guess I should have been considerate of that but she still mislead me.  So the text messaging begins between me and Laura.  I tell her that I am not going to ask her out anymore...she tells me that I can't believe you *****ed out a pregnant girl.  She tells me never to call her again.  We go back and forth.  I end up feeling like ****.  I really hate fighting with friends.  Ex. friends that mean so much to me.  And Laura is one of those friends.  But I guess I let things cool down a bit and talk to her later this week or maybe even next week.  But none the less I am upset. 

9:50 AM - Apr. 11, 2006 - post comment

friends...

friendship needs a hard work. but it is work that should be done by both - you and your friends. when they think they can treat you like they do make them understand they are wrong. there couldnt be any excuses for behaviour like that - neither a break up nor pregnancy give people the right to treat you like that. i really dont know your friends, but i know you a bit. and i like you, you are a very good person. so please dont let them mistreat you - you dont deserve it!!
have a fabulous day, tara

lena - 10:00 AM - Apr. 11, 2006

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